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Red Flags and Green Flags When You're Getting to Know Someone
Early on, it's easy to notice only the good parts. Knowing what healthy and unhealthy behaviour look like helps you trust your gut sooner.
Green flags
- They're consistent: their words and actions match.
- They respect your "no" and your boundaries without sulking.
- They're curious about your life and remember what you tell them.
- They're happy to video call and meet in public.
- They talk kindly about others, including their exes.
- They're honest about what they're looking for.
Red flags
- Pressure: to share photos, your location, or to move off the app fast.
- Love-bombing: intense affection and big promises in the first few days.
- Jealousy or wanting to know where you are all the time.
- Stories that don't add up, or refusing to video call.
- Any request for money, gifts, crypto or bank details.
- Disrespect when you disagree or say no.
Trust your gut
If something feels off, you don't need proof to step back. You can slow things down, ask questions, or end the conversation. You don't owe anyone your time.
Tools that help
On Nexelife, look for the ✓ that shows someone passed a live selfie check. Phone numbers and payment IDs are blocked in brand-new chats to slow scammers down, and you can block or report anyone in one tap.