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60 Questions to Ask Someone You Just Met (Online or Offline)
Good questions are the shortcut to a good conversation. The best ones are open, a little personal without being intrusive, and easy to answer with a story. Here are 60, grouped from light to deep, so you can pick the right one for the moment.
Light and easy (the first chat)
- What did you get up to this weekend?
- Coffee, chai or neither?
- What's the best thing you've eaten recently?
- Which part of your city do you love most?
- What are you watching right now?
- Are you a morning person or a night owl?
- What's your go-to comfort food?
- Beach, mountains or city break?
- What song is stuck in your head?
- What's your favourite way to spend a free evening?
- Do you have any pets, or want one?
- What's the last thing that made you laugh out loud?
- Which festival do you enjoy the most, and why?
- What's an app you couldn't live without?
- Sweet or savoury breakfast?
Getting to know them
- What do you do, and what do you actually enjoy about it?
- What's something you're learning at the moment?
- Where did you grow up, and what was it like?
- What's a hobby you'd pick up if you had more time?
- Who in your life makes you laugh the most?
- What's the best trip you've ever taken?
- What's a small thing that makes your day better?
- What were you obsessed with as a kid?
- What's a skill you're secretly proud of?
- What does a perfect Sunday look like for you?
- What's your favourite place to eat in your city?
- Which book or film changed how you think about something?
- What's a goal you're working towards this year?
- Are you a planner or more spontaneous?
- What kind of music do you put on when you're alone?
Fun and playful
- Would you rather be able to speak every language or play every instrument?
- What's your most controversial food opinion?
- If you could live in any decade, which would it be?
- What would your theme song be?
- Which fictional character are you most like?
- What's the weirdest thing you believed as a child?
- If you won the lottery tomorrow, what's the first thing you'd buy?
- What's a talent you wish you had?
- Two truths and a lie, go.
- If you had to eat one cuisine forever, what would it be?
- What's the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?
- Which celebrity would you want to have dinner with?
- What would you do with an extra hour every day?
- What's your karaoke song?
- What's your hidden red flag? (Joking… mostly.)
Deeper (once you're comfortable)
- What matters most to you in a friendship or relationship?
- What's something people often misunderstand about you?
- What's a lesson you learned the hard way?
- When do you feel most like yourself?
- What are you most grateful for right now?
- What does home mean to you?
- What's a dream you haven't told many people about?
- How do you like to be cared for when you're having a bad day?
- What's something you've changed your mind about?
- Who has had the biggest influence on you?
- What makes you feel proud of yourself?
- What do you want your life to look like in five years?
- What's a moment you'd love to live again?
- What makes you trust someone?
- What are you looking for right now?
How to use them well
Don't fire questions like a quiz. Ask one, really listen, react, and share your own answer too. Follow-up questions ("Wait, why that trek?") matter more than the list. On Nexelife, if a chat is going well, try asking a few of these on a free video call: the answers are always better with a voice and a smile.